Wednesday, April 10, 2013

It's Just a Game


Life moves far too quickly for my taste. The days just zip by, and even when the nights seem to drag on, time is always ticking away and the tiny moments we can never get back are constantly passing us by. My body has been tired lately, as I have been making my way through the second trimester of my third pregnancy, and my mind has had its way of distracting itself with the little, insignificant stresses of life. I guess that somewhere in the midst of laundry, dishes, dinner, and bath time the last few months I have lost my way.
                Strange though, isn’t it? The way that something so small, as simple as a back yard game of baseball, can remind us how far we’ve strayed from our paths. This afternoon the kids were playing out in the yard and while I was mixing together some potato salad to go with dinner I was startled by a ground shaking “smack” against my sliding glass door. As soon as I realized that the sound was probably a rock, in utter frustration, I immediately started screaming at the kids to come inside. Of course, they didn’t listen. They were far too busy with their game. I walked outside to see my little 3 year old daughter tossing a baseball in the direction of her bat-wielding big brother.  He had his notorious naughty smirk on his face and I could tell that he was fighting back laughter.
                He stared at me glaring at him for a minute to see what I was going to do and eventually dropped his bat and yelled,
“KAYLEE HIT THE WINDOW WITH THE BALL!”
It was my instinct to yell and then punish, but instead I sat down and just let myself laugh and laugh. The two of them are the strongest team that I have ever come across. Their endless mischievous ventures are enough to make any mom pull her hair out from time to time but today this bond has got me thinking. How blessed are these babies to always have their best friend by their side? I can’t help but wonder when I forgot how blessed I was to have them by my side. I have taken the little moments for granted and somewhere, along the way, I have forgotten what makes life so incredibly beautiful.
I spent an hour outside picking freshly bloomed flowers off our tree and watching as Kelson and Kaylee shared their sweet, innocent, and loving friendship. As I sit here smelling the sweet flowers that we carried inside and placed in an old Spiderman cup, I am reminded that I can never get that moment back and if I had stayed inside to finish the chores, I would have missed it completely.
I still find Asperger’s Syndrome and Autism difficult topics to discuss but I have wasted too much time with hurt feelings and too much energy feeling defensive of my son and his differences from the rest of the world. I have to allow myself to open back up, even if it means a messy house and letting go of hurt feelings, because never again will I get to experience this day with these absolutely miraculous little souls.
Now, I imagine they are up to some kind of mischief so I had better go see but I will be back to writing about our journey with Aspergers soon because I am not ashamed of the miracle that my baby is.  

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